So, have you ever tried to do something and failed?…ok, stupid question. I tried at least 3 times to start the inspirationenergy blog on 3 other hosts sites, all of which were complete FAILS! I must admit that while in the process of these complete fails, there was something about these moments that just didn’t feel right, there was a little voice, saying no, this isn’t it. But I ignored that little voice every time because it worked for my co-workers’ cousin who recommended it very highly and it was the host site of my favorite blog, so it should work for me…right?! No, instead, I wasted a lot of time, got very discouraged and almost gave up.
What I know now is… before venturing into a project or goal of any kind, it has to survive a process I call “vetting for authenticity” which is a fancy way of asking the question, “Is this right for me?”
So here’s how it works, ask yourself of this goal/project etc. the following series of questions:
1. Why do I want to do this thing in the first place? – If the answer doesn’t include a greater purpose other than yourself then this is cause for reconsideration! Either stop now or figure out how doing this thing can be of benefit to someone else.
2. Do important aspects of this thing marry important fundamentals of who you are as a person, woman, mother, vegan, Christian, etc.? If not, either stop Now or be prepared to explain to your mother why you’re breaking her heart!
3. Does starting/completing this project compliment other important aspects of my life i.e., scheduling, cost, sacrifice of family time etc. If the sacrifices appear to be too great, you may not have to give up; instead, consider narrowing your scope of work – break the project down into smaller steps and give yourself more time to get it done.
4. Do you currently possess the knowledge and skill to accomplish the goal/project? If not, do you have the patience and tenacity, to research, study and practice until you get it done. If not, see question #1
5. Do you get excited by the mere thought of working on this project as much and as long as necessary until the job is done? If not, see question #1
6. Is this thing an extension of who you are and what my life is about? If not, again, see question #1
7. Are there any small voices in your head telling you you’re going the wrong way? …listen to this voice, something’s wrong. Go back to question #1 and start again.
So, in summary , what I know now is …authenticity is a preservative force and in order to increase the chances of long, sustainable success at anything, it must be authentic to who and what you are, be broad in purpose and worthy of the time and sacrifice needed to get it done !