Monday Motivation- What Do People Thank You For?

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“The gratitude that you receive from others is a reflection of your creative genius.”- Danielle Laporte

As we ponder the question, what do I do in my life where I can both do what I love and make a living at it; I propose another question, “what do people thank you for?”

What is it that you consistent bring to the lives of people around you that generate sincere, organic and overwhelming “THANK YOUs”?

Whether it’s something tangible or intangible, odds are that when you’re doing this thing, it makes you feel good; you know in your heart that you’re good at it and you know that people are going to appreciate it and appreciate you when you’re done!

So then the million dollar question becomes, how do you take this thing and begin to turn it in to work that you love? (work meaning… I get paid to do this!)

Here’s how to get started:

  • Listen. Listen for or think about those moments when people or animals even expressed to you sincere gratitude and thankfulness for something you’ve done.
  • Write them down. Make a “What Do People Thank Me For?” list, where you make note of these moments every time they happen and answer these questions.
    • What did I do?
    • Who did I do it for?
    • How did it make me feel as I did it and how did I feel when I finished?
    • How did this thing make a difference in the person’s life?
    • Would I want to do this every day if I could?
    • Look for consistencies.  There will probably be more than one thing happening here, so that’s why it’s important to catch every moment and make special note of consistencies.
    • Discover Your Gift. Review your “What Do People Thank Me For?” list and look for that one thing that consistently showed up and had the most satisfying results. What’s revealed is your God given gift!  You may be surprised at the outcome!
    • Do it more often but now with intention!  Now that you know what people consistently thank you for, do it often and with intention!
      • Offer to do it instead of maybe waiting to be asked.
      • Begin to study and educate yourself on the details of how to do it better.
      • Search for other people who are doing the same thing successfully and are where you want to be.
      •  Create a POA- Plan of Action! Begin to work on creating a step by step action plan to get you on your way. I’ll help you with this one in upcoming posts and in my soon to be released ebook, “How to Begin to Believe”. So if you would like a copy, subscribe and you’ll be the first to know and don’t worry about the cost, you can pay what you want!

 

Time for Spirit and Gratitude

Say This With Me:

Thank you God, for allowing me to touch the lives of others in a positive way…for this, I am truly grateful.

Allow me to expand my reach of service and direct me in my path.

Amen.

 Checkout more like this on believebegreat.com

The Business of Making Us Better: How to Avoid Being Frustrated, Disappointed, Disillusioned and Broke!

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 “To give real service you must add something which cannot be bought or measured with money, and that is sincerity and integrity.” –Douglas Adams

As the New Year rolls out, I had a revelation while I was doing my usual research on coaches, websites, writers, bloggers and entrepreneurs in the business of making us better.  And this revelation really got me pretty worked up so if I appear to rant, forgive me.

 What I realized was this.

There are thousands of people online in the business of making us better, professing to have the solutions for our happiness and success.

And among those I’ve researched, I noticed a few commonalities and maybe you have noticed them too.

They are that most are women with unrealistically beautiful hair and makeup. They’re very polished and appear to be overwhelmingly happy with big smiles and beautiful kids, husbands and lots of friends and live these amazingly wonderful lives all the time…bs!

And if you just subscribe to their site you’ll get some great free stuff! But if you want the real answers then you’ll have to sign up for their program designed specifically for you and pay a lofty one-time fee, or take advantage of their discounted payment plan which will only be offered for a limited time; so get in now!….sound familiar?

But as you find your way through their well-thought out pitches and strategically-placed graphics, you read that’s there’s a waiting list because they’re so great at what they do that everyone wants to get on board with them, so you gotta wait…unexpected bs!

My point here is not to discredit anyone but let’s be for real! Just like any business you have people who are in the business because it’s who they are and they run their business with the sincere intention of making people better.  And then, there are those that are simply in it for the money!

I mean, I understand that everybody has to make a living and if you got it like that, and you have no problem sleeping at night, then gurl, make your money!

But shame on you!

As a woman I realize that when we are at our most vulnerable, we need to reach out and stand on hope and direction that can not only withstand the weight of our challenges but is strong and true enough to help carry us over.  And these women know full well the weight or our challenges. But they bank on us diving in head-on, heart first and eyes closed!

The reality is you do pay for what you get and everyone’s work has value! But we don’t have time or money to waste on anything and anybody whose only true intentions are to get in our pockets!

So how do we wade through all the bs. and actually find what’s real? How do we avoid wasting our time and money on sh*t that’s just gonna leave us more frustrated, disappointed, disillusioned and more broke than we were before we clicked “pay now”?!

Ladies, it is up to us to establish our own criteria for vetting those we select to help make us better.  Moreover, we have to continue to question what and who we’re gonna believe and why before we put out a dime!

But the truth is, sometimes we want it so bad, that we let down our guard and become completely exposed and vulnerable in every way.

Instead, try this….

1. Keep your sense of God given intuition and wisdom open and turned on.  When turned on, females have a natural bullsh*t meter that goes off whenever someone is being insincere or deceptive. The challenge is when we get really passionate about something or someone; we can sometimes ignore the signs and then its too late!. So, stay tuned in and turned on, it will never let you down!

2. Make a list of all the people, male or female who have made a major impact in your life or who you have greatly admired; then make a list of their character traits and why they made such an impact on you. Now look for an inkling of these traits in anybody that you do business with. If they don’t resemble one of the “greats” in your life in some way, move on!

3. Ask yourself, “Is this how I’d do business?”

Make sure that whoever you’re considering doing business with is going about it in a way that doesn’t conflict with your own sense of decency, appropriateness, ethnics, honesty and compassion. And if they are doing business like you would, you’ll feel a greater sense of “success” even if it appears different from what is expected and that’s ok!

4.      Can you really afford it? Get Creative!

Even if it everything really sounds good and seems to be the right fit but you have to rob Peter to pay Paul to afford it, stop! You’re just creating a problem that you’re going to have to deal with sooner or later. And it kinda puts a negative light on what you’re trying to accomplish in the first place.

If it’s right now, then it will still be right when you can afford it. Here are a few ideas.

  • Create a mini savings’ plan and begin to set aside a small amount over a period of time until you have what you need.
  • Contact the person providing the service and share with them how passionate you are about their program and ask if they have any other affordable options that would allow you to participate.
  • Do a small crowd fund project on your blog or facebook and ask your friends or followers to invest in your dream.
  • Keep looking. You may find something similar for free or more affordable somewhere else.

So that’s it!

Checkout more like this on my new blog believebegreat.com !

-Robin

2013: What Worked and Why

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If I am completely honest and I always try to be; I conquered lot of sh*t last year! I was brave, patient, detailed, intentional, tenacious, creative, diligent, self-analyzing, tearfully grateful, forceful, quiet, optimistic, prayerful, supplicating and a little wired most times.

And here’s what it got me!

  1. My blog inspirationenergy is successful by my own terms. I’m always so amazed when I think about how far I’ve come over the last year when it comes to my ability to make it happen!  I mean, I was at zero capability when I started blogging and today, I found my voice,  have I pretty good following and  on my way to building my business of helping people to lead a better life!
  2. I started this new blog believebegreat which as I mentioned above, is my “business blog” where I help people get started, overcome hurdles, and get it done greatly! Now this was no easy feat for me! There are so many behind the scenes steps and decisions you would not believe… but I DID IT!
  3. I wrote the book How to Begin To Believe- 12 Steps to Believing You Can Do What Nobody Ever Told You, You Could! (To Be Released This Year). You can catch a sneak peek here!
  4. I read a lot about how to be better in general. I will share these resources with you in a later post.
  5. I began a healthier life path for myself, specifically, diet and exercise, more to come on this later as well.
  6. My household in terms of order is pretty much on track, it’s not perfect, but it’s recognizableJ!  I found that the more organized I had to be for my work, the more organized I had to be in general. Organization is a big deal, I have some important posts coming on this soon!
  7. My girls are great! Now, I’m not taking credit for THEIR accomplishments but when they called on me, I was there!  I was also there when they didn’t call on me, but that’s the kind of Mama I am! Some of the challenges we met last year were: Bullying, Strength and Faith, Standing Up for what you believe in, Prioritizing, Parenting, Friendships, Boys, and Appropriateness.
  8. My marriage…well 3 out of 4 ain’t bad! Just kidding! All is well on the marriage front. Not that this year was a breeze because it wasn’t; we worked through it. Some of our most intense conversations centered on subjects like; Does love change? Is this a Me problem or a We problem?  How long does the momentum lasts before we need another push?

I think these things worked because…check out the end of the post  at believebegreat!

 

“Self-Nurturing Isn’t Self-Ish”

It’s just who we are. We tend to the needs of others every day, all day! We love it and probably wouldn’t have it any other way. But the bottom line is we have to see about us too and in most cases first! And when we do take a moment for ourselves, we feel guilty and selfish…stop it!

In order to withstand the weight of change, especially one that is self initiated, it is helpful to have an assessment of our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual states.

This will help us to better identify the source when things go wrong and actually limit the possibility of “failure” i.e. when things don’t go as we expected.

Our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual state can make the difference between not only success and failure, but whether we even get our ideas off the ground at all.

Trying can be hard and success is even harder; so it’s necessary to prepare ourselves as best we can for the journey.

Making changes to our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual selves takes time however, knowing and acknowledging that a need exists and beginning to take the steps to address those needs is everything!

So here’s my physical assessment along with specific steps on how I am beginning to address these challenges and how you can too!

Of course you’ll do this practice for every area, mental, emotional and spiritual but for time sake, I’ll only share my physical assessment. I’ll be sharing my total assessments and my progress on my instagram, if you’re interested in following along!

There are basic and fundamental steps that we can useful in our planning efforts, no matter what the challenge. Check them out here…believebegreat.com

Its Friday, Act Like It- “What’s On YouR BullShit List?!”

Come Clean!

“How you gon’ win when you ain’t right within!”- Lauryn Hill

You have to come clean! You have to deal with your bullshit! All of us have something that we need to deal with in our character or spirit. We lie, cheat, steal, talk about our friends behind their backs.  We’re jealous, envious, spiteful and selfish!

I’m talking about the ugly things that you do in secret or when you think nobody is watching.  Or those things that you do intentionally even when you know they’re wrong or they are going to really piss somebody off ! Or maybe you’re just plain old mean, insensitive or hurtful.

Whatever the case, you have to come to grips with the fact that maybe all those hurtful things your friends and family say about you are true!

It may not be that you’re a bad person but if your behavior hinders or interferes with the life and dreams of other people, then this is a problem! This type of behavior kills dreams and damages the spirit and you have no right to inflict this on anyone!

In order for us to make any kind of meaningful break through much less accomplish a lifelong dream, we have to address this sort of behavior, there is no getting around it!  And even though good things happen to bad people all the time, every day, eventually, one way or another, it all catches up to you.

If you’re generally a “good” person and most of us are, this task of identifying those things we need to come clean about maybe even harder than you expect.  We are so accustom to justifying our weaknesses or calling them something other than what they are. But it’s time to put on your big girl panties (excuse me fellas!) and tell it like it is!

So here’s my bullshit list (the short one)!

  • I’m socially insensitive and I don’t remember people’s name
  • I can be selfish
  • I only really  “like” my own kids
  • I can be thoughtless and thankless to those I love and those that love me

There is no 30 day or 12 step solution to fixing this. These changes must take place over time through your genuine, conscious and direct intention to do better.

So, in our effort to begin to deal with our “bullshit lists”, here are measures that will help us to do just that! Check It Out Here… believebegreat.com!

 

Introducing: believebegreat!

Hey everyone! I want to introduce to you my new website/blog,  believebegreat!

Our ability to believe in ourselves dictates the quality of our lives and the extent to which we can be of service to others.  But very often we can be hindered by how we are perceived by others and most importantly, how we perceive ourselves.

From time to time we may find ourselves wrestling with indecisiveness, self-doubt,  procrastination, laziness and/or a lack of self worth.  And far too often we live in sacrifice to those we love and those who sign our paychecks, rarely making our own personal needs a priority.

I’ve spent the last year studying the power of believing and the greatness it can cause.  And I started the blog inspirationenergy to showcase great people, places, moments, and causes and to inspire people to do great things. This blog shortly over 20,000 views and nearly 2,000 followers. But more importantly, what I’ve learned, I share with you at believebegreat!

So check it out thank you for following me here at inspirationenergy!

And remember no matter what you’re setting out to do, I promise you, like me, at some point during this process, you will wake up one morning overwhelmed by the potential of the day and know at the end of the day, you’ve filled every minute with purpose and greatness!

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How To Begin To Believe: Step 3- Change Your Mind

bonsai-fb6Here is my Friday Sneak Peak from my soon to be released eBook, How To Begin To Believe, 12 Steps To Believing You Can Do What Nobody Ever Told You, You Could !

Step 3- Change Your Mind

“Change your mind about who you think you are. One of the primary reasons we wrestle with accomplishing certain goals is because we have adopted certain labels and character traits. Odds are, these labels were probably first given to us by our parents, siblings, friends etc. And because we love and trust these people, we believed them!
I was labeled “LAZY”. Ok, yeah this one was a little true for me. But I was also called smart, creative, and compassionate. The challenge was that I let the LAZY label, take priority over the smart, or creative label. I let it define me.

So, here’s how I changed my mind and how you can change yours too….”

Be sure to follow me here at inspirationenergy- (over in the sidebar) or on twitter so that you will be notified as soon as it’s released and pay what you want for your copy!

How to Begin to Believe -Step 2: Forgiveness

bonsai-fb6Here is a small excerpt from my soon to be released eBook, How To Begin To Believe, 12 Steps To Believing You Can Do What Nobody Ever Told You, You Could !

Step 2: Forgiveness

“Forgiving ourselves can often be harder than forgiving others.   We can sometimes carry the heavy burden of guilt and disappointment for years for something we did, didn’t do or failed at doing.  The inability to forgive ourselves is unhealthy and keeps us anchored to the past and unable to move forward. Here are a few practices to help you to begin to let yourself off the hook and forgive yourself for anytime you have ever fallen short…”

A Forgiveness Mantra:

“I forgive myself for what I’ve done and for all I didn’t do and embrace all the good that lies ahead”…Click to Tweet!

So be sure to follow me here at inspirationenergy- (over in the sidebar) or on twitter so that you will be notified as soon as it’s released and pay what you want for your copy!

How to Begin to Believe -Step 1: Gratitude

bonsai-fb6How To Begin To Believe, 12 Steps To Believing You Can Do What Nobody Ever Told You, You Could is for those of us who have not only struggled to get things done but struggled with believing we could do it in the first place. I wrote this from a place of knowing what it’s like to see a goal in the distance but not know exactly how to get there.

Here is small excerpt from Step 1- Gratitude!

“Before taking on anything new, take a quick assessment of gratitude for what you have and who you are right now . Having a spirit of gratitude on the onset creates a metaphoric airbag that allows you to survive those moments of perceived disappointment and failure. ”

Gratitude reminds us that we are greater and more worthy than we ever imaged. Click to Tweet!

So be sure to follow me here at inspirationenergy- (over in the sidebar) or on twitter so that you will be notified as soon as it’s released and pay what you want for your copy!